Wednesday, May 30, 2012

B.A.I.T. Footwear Giveaway!

Closed Tuesday, June 5!

This week's giveaway is from B.A.I.T. Footwear!
They are offering one of my readers a pair of Dennise wedges,
in your choice of color (red, green, blue or black)!

To enter, you must:
1) Comment with your favorite item from their shop

Bonus entries!
1) Like them on Facebook
2) Follow them on Twitter
(Please leave additional comments for each)

Sorry, this giveaway is only open to U.S. and Canadian readers.

Entries will be accepted until Tuesday, June 5th at 9 PM EST.

The winner of the Shabby Babe Vintage giveaway is...
#28 // Emily Haller
Please email me to claim your prize!

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

It was all yellow

It was hot this past weekend in Michigan! I was all about cotton dresses. I actually scored this dress at the Texas Style Council Conference clothing swap last March. I lost the tag though, so if you know who owned this dress before I did, let me know! I always love seeing how different bloggers style the same article of clothing. This dress was so easy to wear too. Of course, I love my floral prints, cut-out details and accents of red.

I keep thinking about how my blog is probably going to change a bit this summer and I'm okay with that. I've had such a "Michigan" focus on my blog for so long. I'm guessing I won't be taking as many trips and excursions this summer and I'm actually happy about that. I'm ready to explore this city more, take time off from traveling to and from places for blog posts and ready to get creative in other ways. Not to say I won't be taking a few fun trips this summer though!

Also, my band is playing our last show in Ravenna, Michigan on Saturday, June 2nd if you're in the area! We're playing a show called Fest, Fest and we're playing quite early in the day... 4:35 p.m., I believe? I'm a bit sad to be saying goodbye to Circle Maybe, but it was so much fun while it lasted. I have plans now to continue music with other friends. Hopefully something a bit more folky or acoustic-ish. I will, of course, keep you guys tuned!

Outfit details:
Swapped Forever 21 floral dress 
Naked flats c/o Blowfish Shoes

Monday, May 28, 2012

Memorial Day

Yay for long weekends! I've loved having four days off to recoup. I've spent a lot of time this weekend out with friends, seeing good bands, eating lots of food, watching movies and sleeping in tons. It was super desperately needed. Well, Memorial Day marks the "beginning" of summer, right? The weather is here to prove it. 90 degrees today. I'm currently in my studio just sweating it out. Don't worry, the cake batter ice-cream helped earlier today.

Spring flew by in two seconds, it felt like. I always feel a tad guilty running a personal style blog in summer because I dress so simply. In Michigan, the summers are always so hot and humid. All you ever feel like wearing is a simple cotton skirt/top or dress with sandals. I'll try to keep the creativity up, but don't expect much. ;)

I also just wanted to quickly say... thank you for your amazing support regarding my previous post. I've received over 200 emails from people who are going through the same situation or have gone through something similar. Most of the emails are 5-6 paragraphs long and insanely detailed and so heartfelt. There were several that brought me to tears. So thank you. I would love more than anything to respond to every single one, but I'm sorry if I can't. But I just wanted to say here that I read every single one (probably twice) and it means more than you know. Thank you.

Thank you to Lily for taking my photos!

Outfit details:
Forever 21 skirt
Francesca's Collections bandeau
Outer Bank on It sandal in yellow c/o ModCloth

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Shabby Babe Vintage Giveaway!

Closed Tuesday, May 29!

This week's giveaway is from Shabby Babe Vintage!
They are offering one of my lucky readers a $50 store credit.

To enter, you must:
1) Name your favorite item from their shop
2) Subscribe to their newsletter

Bonus entry!
1) Like them on Facebook
(Please leave an additional comment)

This giveaway is open to U.S. and international readers.

Entries will be accepted until Tuesday, May 29 at 9 PM EST.

The winner of the ONA Bags giveaway is...
#188 // Lori Paulson!
Please email me to claim your prize!

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Superdawg Sneak Peek!

This past weekend, I had the amazing opportunity to shoot another film with my friends, Nick and Andrew, of Little Cabin Films. We did a similar video last summer at the drive-in theater. This time, I headed out to Chicago to Superdawg for a day at the retro diner. I had so much fun and I absolutely love working with these guys. They are super talented and easy going and I know the video is going to turn out insanely perfect. Here's a few sneak peek photos thanks to Chris Del Sesto of ChrisSix photo + cinema. He did such a great job capturing the look and feel of the shoot and I love how his photos turned out. You can check out his website here and like him on Facebook too! I'll be posting the video as soon as I have it and I cannot wait to share with you guys.

Be sure to check out Little Cabin Film's website, Twitter and Facebook. If you're in the Chicago-land area and need any video work, these guys are insanely amazing. ♥

Monday, May 21, 2012

Letting go, moving on

This will probably be the hardest post I'll ever have to write, but I know I have to address it at some point and that point should be sooner rather than later. I haven't gone about this in the best way possible, because I didn't know how to handle it, to be honest. I never in my life thought that I'd have a blog that reaches thousands of people on a daily basis. People that truly care about what is going on in my life and have genuine concern about what is happening. I've received the most insane amount of emails, tweets, calls and texts the past few weeks. It tore my heart to shreds to have so much support, from strangers to friends and family even when a lot of people didn't know what was going on. It has been insanely overwhelming and has gotten me through some pretty dark days the past few weeks.

Many of you will be shocked and saddened to hear that Brett and I have decided to go our separate ways. It's been a decision I've been struggling with for the past year and finally realized it's time for it to come to an end. Although I've made some big mistakes, Brett and I aren't saying anyone is at fault or finger pointing. He has been a huge part of my life, a best friend since I was a teenager. But somewhere in the past five years, we lost what we thought we had when we were younger. We somehow lost the passion. As much as I wanted to get it back, I couldn't anymore. It broke my heart that I stopped wanting to try. It was the hardest decision of my life to finally accept that. It wasn't because of anything negative Brett ever did. We never even fought. We even sat down and wrote this post together. Brett is one of the most amazing people I've ever known. But we are both feeling relieved and hopeful about the future and will continue to stay friends as we always have been.

Many of you have noticed I've struggled lately, especially with the little things, which isn't normally like me. I thought moving to Grand Rapids would help fix something between us. We'd have more to do in the city and we'd be closer to friends. But it just ended up tearing us more apart. The boxes stayed unpacked, the frames went unhung. I went through a scary episode with my eyes and I ended up overly freaking out about wearing glasses (seriously‚ who cares?) and I finally realized it wasn't the new city or the glasses. It was the fact that I knew my marriage was ending and it was inevitable. It shocked me even when my closest friends and parents weren't surprised at our news. They all knew something I chose to ignore for a very long time. It's been a huge wake-up call.

I still believe in love. I absolutely believe in marriage. I'll never stop believing in those things. Ever. I saw my grandparents grow old together and celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary. How could I not believe in true love? This just wasn't it for Brett or I. We were best friends, who perhaps got married too young. I don't at all regret the past six years of my life with him. They've held some of the best memories of my life and his. And we are both going to stay in each other's lives as friends. As sad as it is with what's happening, Brett and I have stayed close, promising to take care of each other through this process because we honestly do care about each other. Just not in the way a husband and wife should care about each other. We lost the fight, but we won some amazing times along the way. He'll always be a HUGE part of my life and I know I will be a huge part of his. We have no regrets. But we both know this is the best decision and we're ready to move on and accomplish the things we couldn't do together.

I'm terrified to hit publish on this post, but I feel like this is something I needed to do before I could fully move on. We both have an amazing support system, so I know we won't have to walk down this road alone. I'm terrified of the backlash of this, especially when my life is so public. I know I haven't always been entirely honest on this blog, but it's just easier to blog about the things that make me happy rather than sad. I never wanted Selective Potential to be a place where I dump my problems. I wanted it to make me happy and inspire me. Would you scrapbook the crappy fight you had with your husband or the time you got into a car accident or whatever? I don't think so. Thank you for your (already amazing) support. There are dark days ahead, but I know I'll be okay because of the people in my life. Everyone makes mistakes; everyone is human. I just need to continue to stay true to myself and follow my heart. I've lived my entire life by following my heart and sometimes it really hurts me, but it's also got me to some of the best places in my life.

As for the blog, I will never delete my past content. It's my past and it's an amazing past I will always look back on happily. I want to live a life with no regrets. Relationships end, people move on, but I'll never delete Brett from this blog or my life. I know this sounds insanely weird to some people. It's weird to me too. I always thought divorce was two people who hated each other and screamed and fought. That's just not us and it never has been. Selective Potential will move forward though. I will continue to blog about my personal style, trips I take and things that inspire me. It will continue to be a happy place for me. I will not be allowing comments on this post, but if you want to have a conversation about this, please email me. I've already told several people about the situation because they've emailed me, were genuine and asked. There are so many hurtful things people are saying, when all they are doing is speculating. But yet, none of them have reached out to me and asked. I'd love to have a conversation with any of you, just don't hide behind the anonymity of the internet and show your face. Obviously, I'm showing mine. And it's not perfect, but it's mine.

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

On the sidewalk

Phew… I'm back after a semi-hiatus from the blog! I know I haven't been very clear on what's happening in my life currently, but I've just been waiting for the dust to settle before announcing anything. It's been a really crazy month and as much as what is happening hurts, I know it's for the best. I'm really hopeful for the future. I have no idea what it will hold, but I'm looking forward to finding out.

In the meantime, I was told to continue blogging and doing what I love as normal, so here I am. Trying my best to get dressed up everyday and enjoy life. I can honestly say these past couple of weeks have been the worst and best days of my life. Can you imagine feeling all of those emotions into just a short amount of time? It's overpowering. Like a HUGE wake-up call.

Selective Potential will stay what it is. I know it will. It will include my passion for style, traveling around the state, taking dorky trips and enjoying life as cheesy as possible. That's what I'm all about. I sometimes hate how much of my life is driven by emotion, but I also love it. It's gotten me to some of the best places I've ever known.

Outfit details:
Forever 21 belt
Urban Outfitters t-strap heels

Monday, May 14, 2012

Featured in Momentum Magazine!

I'm so excited to have been featured in the summer issue of Momentum Magazine! Momentum Magazine is a cycling magazine that focuses on an urban lifestyle. It's a great magazine for everything you need to know about smart living by bike. I'd definitely recommend picking up a copy, plus I love that they feature style bloggers! I was thrilled to be on the glossy pages alongside Elsie of A Beautiful Mess (a huge inspiration!)

Outfit details:
Sosie top
ModCloth dress
Target tights
Loxley Mary Jane wedges c/o Ruche

Sunday, May 13, 2012

You're Invited: Madewell Style Sessions

I'm really excited to announce that I'll be part of the Madewell Style Session in Old Orchard Center in Skokie, IL next Thursday evening. You should come out! You'll be able to get summer style tips, enjoy lots of snacks and sips, listen to great DJ tunes and discover a secret one-night-only deal! Be sure to RSVP on Facebook. Full details:

Old Orchard Center
Thursday, May 17th from 6-8p.m.

4999 Old Orchard Center
Skokie, IL 60077

So come out, shop, say hi! I'd LOVE to meet you.
Warning though, I'm a little shy approaching people... so please say hi!

Friday, May 11, 2012

Past summer favorites

Even though we are in the middle of my second favorite season ever, I thought I'd pull some summer outfits forward for inspiration! Unfortunately, summer is my second least favorite season to dress for. In Michigan, you're just doomed in winter and summer. Winter, you're freezing your booty off and only want to bundle up in a giant parka! In summer, you're roasting and sweaty and only want to wear a cotton dress. But I'm going to push through this summer, no matter what, and see what I can put together! I have some fun ideas and plans in the works. Enjoy some of my favorite outfits from the past two summers!